~Me Too

~Originally posted 22 November 2017~

I’ve posted before about how I make it a point to keep my mouth shut when it comes to polarizing issues. Eventually I’ll make a post about exactly why I do this. But today isn’t that day. In fact, today isn’t one of those days when I’m able to shut my mouth and “stay in my lane” either. And seeing as how I haven’t had a good rant in a while… Take a seat.

I feel like one day I woke up and saw #MeToo all over the internet and the next day the internet was full of victim shaming. Which, honestly, it’s whatever. The internet is dumb, and people post dumb things on it pretty often. But then, I randomly had multiple people talk to me about it in real life. You know the thing where people talk to you as if they already somehow know that you both feel the same way about an issue? Yea, they were those conversations. For me, normally, it depends on the person. If we are close I’ll politely tell them that I disagree and we’ll have a debate. If not, I’ll just go “I know what you mean” or some other form of acknowledgement without actually agreeing.

So, this #MeToo thing… Well, Me Too. Eventually I’ll work up the guts to write and publish a post about it, but it’s going to be hard. Fortunately / unfortunately my mind decided to erase the majority of these instances from my memory, as you can imagine I’m not really in a rush to dig them back up. And I can count one one hand how many people know about this time in my life, so there’s that. Yea….. Let me get back to my original point.

Victim shaming, really? The most common thing that I hear is that since it has taken so long for someone to speak out that it must mean that their story is either fabricated or is something that they have already gotten over and chose to bring up now in order to gain some sort of underserved attention. I honestly don’t have the time or patience to get into/argue just how incredibly stupid this way of thinking is, but I will say that it is in fact STUPID. EVERYONE has been involved in something at one point in time or another that they would rather not make public. Something that -under the right circumstances- they will let others know about when they feel comfortable enough to do so. Just because you are not empathetic enough to relate someone else’s unpleasant past and how they deal with it to your own does not make their situation or how they chose to handle it any less valid.

I get that me saying “me too” earlier might have thrown some of you for a loop. And some of you might have it in your mind that things like this only happen to or only effect women. It’s sad that we live in a world that things like this happen to anyone. It’s sad that we live in a world where it’s assumed that things like this only happen to certain types of people. It’s sad that we live in a world where we search for reasons to discredit people when they express something that we can not fully understand or relate to.

Ok… I’m finding myself getting more and more upset as I continue to write/revise this so I’m going to go ahead and end my rant here. It’s all just, sad.

Until next time, silence yourself before choosing to silence others.


12 Comments Add yours

  1. I am sorry you had to deal with pain. I am no stranger to pain myself. People can be so cruel

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    1. It really amazes me how we can treat each other, and allow others to treat us. I’m kinda sorta working on a rant about it, I think I’ll post it monday


  2. anne leueen says:

    I understand that you may not want to unearth the past and that is fair enough but you have done good work with this post. Yes!

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    1. I will one say, I think haha I started a draft, I just need to put some time aside to finish it. And thanks!

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    2. anne leueen says:

      It’s your story to tell, when and how you choose to tell it.

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  3. Jad says:

    Thanks for this post!! I chose not to involve myself in #metoo only because I could see where it was heading and unfortunately sometimes social media takes something that could have been a really great positive step forward and just makes it a fucking train wreck.
    Sorry to hear you had your own experience, I hope one day you will be at a point where it holds NO power over you!!
    I know for me personally my experiences no longer define me or hold any power and it is incredibly freeing in so many ways!!

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    1. Thanks! I wouldn’t really say that it holds any sort of power over me, I really don’t remember much of it to be honest and haven’t thought about it in YEARS… But then again, I’m not all that thrilled about trying to remember either lol so maybe there’s some power there, I don’t know.

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    2. Jad says:

      This is ONLY from my personal belief and experience so honestly I could be talking shit but I feel that unless you can talk about the experience or situation as if you were describing a normal even such as going to the movies then it still holds some power and has the potential to shape your decision or your future sometimes without you even knowing it is.
      When people read the about me section on my blog I have had some private messages from readers telling me how sorry they were, even my daughter said she did not realize all of that and she was horrified and so sorry I had to go through that.
      I am polite and I thank them for the caring and their kindness but I do need people to feel sorry for my experience, it happened, it shaped my destiny, and in many ways defined me but now I am over it, it no longer shapes me or holds power over me. I can think of it like any other memory or experience and it does not invoke any strong emotions either way. I feel no shame, anger, sadness, regret. In fact if anything I am appreciative that the adversity that I had for most of my life gave me strength to withstand anything that life has thrown at me and a stronger appreciate of life than what many people have.

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    3. Yea, I see what you’re saying, If the thought of it evokes emotion then it has some sort of power over you, I can definitely agree with that. It just sounds better when I say it haha just kidding, just kidding.

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  4. people suck sometimes and it sucks that bravery brings out the worst in ignorant cowards. i share your frustration but enjoyed your rant. sending you strength and big ol’ earmuffs to drown out the idiots ❤

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    1. Thank you! It just amazes me how cold we can be to one another at times, strength and earmuffs are definitely needed!

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